Four Surprising Things You Learn About Yourself When Your Spouse Leaves

Whether you are a military couple or not, there comes a time when you will have to spend time apart from your spouse.  For some it could be just a couple of nights but for others it could be a huge chuck of time.  Initially them leaving can seem daunting and intimidating (not to mention sad) but then you start to get used to your new “normal”.  It is in that time apart you begin to learn new things about yourself.  In fact, that time apart can often be empowering and inspiring. 

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The Six Stages of Emotions When Your Spouse Leaves

When your spouse signs up for the military you know you will have to be flexible to an unusual lifestyle but nothing anyone can ever say really prepares you for what is to come.  Early days and late nights are tough.  Finding lost pieces of a uniform while you are half asleep or making a last-minute dish for a barbeque that you just found out about are all manageable (yet frustrating – I mean, why they cannot tell us earlier is beyond me).  Something I will never get used to or comfortable with is the extended absences. 

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How the Feeling of Being "Stuck" Led Me to Find My Purpose.

I spent my days working a desk job, coming home to my loving family, and being able to financially splurge on a Starbucks or a Panera trip without worrying.   I know those are fortunate things to have in life, but I kept feeling like there was more that I should be doing.  I felt “stuck” in the same routine.  I needed to add something to give me PURPOSE. 

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